| An unexpected break up of a valued relationship can | | | | what you are missing about it. Consider the type of |
| be difficult to deal with at any time of the year. But | | | | interactions that you had with your ex on a regular |
| when the holidays or special occasions roll around the | | | | basis during the good times of the relationship. If the |
| devastation can even be worse. | | | | relationship was abusive in anyway then it should not |
| It seems that during the holiday season you, like | | | | be a tremendous loss to let it remain in the past. But |
| everyone else is expected to be happy and jolly. But | | | | if most of the relationship was fun and interesting |
| when your heart is broken this is a difficult thing to | | | | then it is probably worth saving. |
| do. You may find ways to hide your hurt while you | | | | Decide if you are truly ready for a make up. |
| are with others but when you are alone all the pain | | | | Determine if a relationship with your ex is really what |
| and gloom returns. | | | | you want and if it fits in with who you are at this |
| You might even feel some comfort in the fact that | | | | moment in time. It is possible that you have changed |
| during those alone times you are free to cry or | | | | in some way since the break up. |
| shout or whatever it is that helps you deal with the | | | | Next you will need to determine if your ex still thinks |
| problem. And unless you are really good at hiding | | | | of you in a special way. Regardless of the way the |
| your distress you probably have well-meaning friends | | | | relationship ended it is possible that your ex is missing |
| that want to help you out of that dark place you are | | | | you as badly as you are missing him or her. |
| in. | | | | If you determine that your ex does in fact still care |
| They may try to match you up with someone they | | | | then you will need to come up with a way to |
| know or they may simply tell you that you need to | | | | communicate with him or her. Depending on the |
| forget about the past and move on. This article is | | | | circumstances this may need to start with a text |
| not intended to do either of those things. Instead, I | | | | message, an email or a phone call. Next you can |
| want to let you know that most relationships can be | | | | hopefully move on to spending some real time with |
| repaired. | | | | your ex. |
| And you should also know that the holidays can be | | | | That will give you an opportunity to determine if the |
| an excellent time to plan a make up with an ex. But | | | | relationship is viable and if a reunion would last. If you |
| first there are a few things to be considered: | | | | feel that a make up would only last until the next |
| 1) Is this relationship worth saving | | | | break up then you may be better off avoiding |
| 2) Are you ready for a make up | | | | heartbreak in the future and simply remaining friends |
| 3) Do you still have a place in the heart of your ex | | | | with your ex. You see, in the end it is you that will |
| 4) Will your ex consider a reunion of any kind | | | | need to decide the value of the relationship with your |
| 5) Will a make up last | | | | ex and how determined you are to make things |
| First of all you need to evaluate the relationship and | | | | work. |