Mirroring the Interviewer

If you have started to read any job interviewingto think and breathe. You can't pause for too many
books, they inevitably mention the concept ofbreaks, but the goal is to keep up the overall tempo
"mirroring." This is described as the intervieweeof the conversation.
mirroring or copying such things as how theOn the flip side, if they are a slow talker, and you
interviewer is sitting (legs crossed, slouching, or sittingspeak very quickly, the interviewer may have the
up straight), where they place their hands (on theimpression that you are nervous, excitable, and would
desk, in their lap), and their pattern of speech. Everynot pay attention to detail. However, unlike the
time I think about doing this, I laugh out loud. If Isituation above where it's primarily a negative
was conducting an interview and noticed that animpression, it is possible that they will appreciate your
interviewee was doing this, things would quicklyenergy and can see it as a plus for the organization.
deteriorate into a physical Simon Says game where IIf you notice that they have a genuine smile and nod
would change my position every 10 seconds to see ifin agreement to what you are saying, then you are
they could keep up.on the right track. But if they look physically
Plus I think the whole mirroring concept is kind ofuncomfortable, or have a pained expression on their
creepy.face, take a breath and make a lighthearted
What I advise people to do is to pay attention tocomment that maybe 3 espressos is your limit, then
the interviewer's pattern of speech. People who tendmake every effort to slow the rhythm of your
to speak quickly notice when others do not, andanswers to match theirs. Try to enunciate your
tend to think of them as more methodical, boring,words as a way to slow down. If your friends have
and might not see them as being a good fit with theever accused you of speaking too quickly or even
organization. Remember, interviewers hire peoplemumbling, then you need to be aware that this could
whom they are comfortable with and can seebe a problem.
themselves working with on a day-to-day basis. IfAbove all, be aware of the physical non-verbal clues
they are the impatient type and can only see athe interviewer is giving you. Remember that in many
future where you are the employee and they arecases when faced with two equally qualified
left waiting for what seems like an eternity to themcandidates, they will give the job to the person they
for you to answer a question, any question, you willlike more, and can see themselves getting along with
not get the job. Qualified or not. To remedy thisday-to-day. Keep in mind though that if you're
situation in the interview, try to match the pace ofinterviewing with the hiring manager their pattern of
your speech to your interviewers', even if it meansspeech is what you will have to deal with, and if you
you have to say "that's a good question, let me thinkare not comfortable with them then the job is
about it for a minute," one time to give you a chanceprobably not a good fit.