| As I listened to my friend I understood exactly what | | | | Then insure that you make time for each other. It |
| she meant when she said, "It's like we do not even | | | | does not matter if you can only spare 30 minutes |
| know each other anymore. We live more like | | | | per day, make those 30 minutes all about the two of |
| roommates than lovers." You see, it really has not | | | | you. Focus on each other during that time. |
| been that long ago that I experienced similar feelings | | | | Plan date nights each week or every other week or |
| about my own relationship. It seemed for a period of | | | | as often as possible. This time can be used for |
| time that we completely lost touch with each other. | | | | anything that you enjoy doing together. Perhaps a |
| As I look back at that time period it is so easy to | | | | night out shooting pool would be fun or bowling or |
| see how it all happened. But during that phase of my | | | | going to see a movie and dinner. Make this time a fun |
| life I felt lost and confused, and I really did not | | | | time. |
| understand why things had changed so drastically | | | | Practice the art of conversation with your partner. |
| between my husband and me. | | | | Get to know him or her all over again. Remind |
| No matter what is going on your relationship right | | | | yourself of what you have to be grateful in your |
| now, it can be improved upon. I am very serious | | | | relationship. Thank your partner for that. Consider |
| about that. Of course you and your partner will need | | | | how you treat your partner. If you have been less |
| to work on the situation if it is similar to what my | | | | than loving and understanding then work on |
| friend described. | | | | improving the way you interact with him or her. |
| Begin by working on your future instead of fighting | | | | It's amazing how much we get when we give. I |
| about or dwelling on the past. Whatever has | | | | happen to believe in the principles of the Laws of |
| happened has happened. No amount of arguing or | | | | Attraction and I do think we draw or attract things |
| bickering will change it. So now you must decide if | | | | into our lives. If we focus on negativity we seem to |
| moving forward together is what you want. | | | | get more of it. Instead I suggest that you focus on |
| If it is, which is probably the case, then you need to | | | | the good and the positives in your relationship and in |
| work on making today, tomorrow and the rest of | | | | your life in general. |
| your life the best it can be. If you have read | | | | By making a conscientious effort to treat your |
| anything from me then you know I constantly say | | | | partner in a better way you will find that over time it |
| you need to have friendship at the heart of your | | | | will become a natural part of you. Your relationship |
| relationship. Your friendship will carry you through the | | | | will improve and be stronger. Believe me, when you |
| rough spots. | | | | work through a difficult phase with your partner you |
| Get back to the basics of any good relationship. | | | | will find that your bonds are more durable than ever |
| Work on the simple things like treating each other | | | | before. |
| with respect. That is a basic component of friendship. | | | | |