The Secret to Staying Together is Not Letting Your Relationship Go Stale!

When a relationship is new and fresh everythingoverlook the little things that once were so
seems brighter. Life is easier to live. That is simplyimportant. Think back to the beginning of a wonderful
how we are as people. It feels good to feel that yourelationship. Chances are that you simply could not
are important to someone. And that is even moreget enough of the other person.
special when you feel the same way about the otherI myself have had relationships like that. I wanted to
person.be with him as much as possible. But over time I
And if the relationship continues and love grows wethink the routine and responsibilities of life changed
are likely to decide that we are staying with thatmy enthusiasm. My love did not fade but my
individual for now and possibly forever. The problemsoutward expressions did. Basically, I did little to display
usually come up later.the love I felt.
You see initially it is very easy to remember whatThis was not one-sided, not that that makes it
type of flowers she likes and birthdays would neveracceptable. But I think we were both overwhelmed
be forgotten. But as time goes by it is much easierwith responsibilities and instead of teaming up to
to put other things before the little things.console one another we withdrew into our own
To some of us the little things may not matter. Wespaces.
might overlook the fact that a birthday orHowever, the good news is that my partner and I
anniversary is missed. But deep down most of usrealized the problem. We talked about it and worked
want to be remembered. It is not the point that it ison it. Of course at first it seemed that the efforts
our birthday it is the point that our special someonewere not heart felt. After a short while we found
thought so little of us that they forgot our birthday.that by pushing ourselves to do what we thought
This is even more hurtful if in the beginning ourwould bring our relationship back to life we started
significant other was one of those wonderful peopledoing those things without thought again.
that believe in gifts for no reason. Then as time goesI am talking about little things here. We found that
by we are thought of less and less often.we did have the time and energy needed to fit that
It could be said that we begin to take each other forstuff into our life. Work at it. When we were at our
granted and no longer feel the need to do the littleworst we had to force ourselves to have real
things. It could be that our feelings have changed. Butconversations. It seemed that we only discussed
in most cases what has happened is that thewhat had to be discussed.
relationship has gone stale.Our relationship is stronger than ever now and yours
We have become so comfortable with each othercan be too!
and with the circumstances in our life that we