| There may come a point in time that you realize | | | | doing things together that you both enjoy. I |
| your relationship has lost its luster. It might happen | | | | understand that life and the responsibilities of daily |
| over a period of months or it might happen quite | | | | living take priorities at times and our relationship |
| suddenly. Either way the end result is the same, you | | | | seems to get lost in the mix. |
| feel as though you have failed somehow. But you | | | | Now is the time to put your relationship as a priority. |
| need to understand that all is not lost. | | | | You might begin by designating one single night a |
| This is true regardless of the situation. In fact, in | | | | week as your couple time. That time is only for the |
| over ninety percent of break ups people that work | | | | two of you. You should plan for it and use it wisely. |
| at getting back together find that a make up is | | | | What you do with that time can be the same from |
| possible. To motivate you even further, consider | | | | week to week or you can vary from week to week. |
| couples that are separated due to circumstances out | | | | The important thing is that you spend it together |
| of their control. This could be prison time, active | | | | doing something you both enjoy. |
| duty, or work related situations. In almost every case | | | | Whether you are working out the problems as a |
| those separations do not end in a true break up. | | | | team or you are soloing it you will want to get back |
| If you are feeling that things are starting to slip away | | | | in touch with what made your relationship special in |
| and you are worried that they may go too far if you | | | | the beginning. Try to recapture some of that. |
| do not do something, then you are probably right. | | | | Perhaps the two of you used to work out together |
| The good news is that you can take a stand and | | | | but over time you have given up your gym |
| take positive action. | | | | membership. This is a great time to get back into |
| Depending on the circumstances you may want to | | | | your fitness regimen. Maybe camping was a common |
| start working on solutions that you can do yourself. | | | | interest but over the years you have given that up |
| Or you may need to involve your partner. My | | | | for stays in motels. Consider a short camping trip. |
| suggestion is that you at least talk with your partner | | | | Those are just examples but I think you get the |
| about how you are feeling. Let him or her know that | | | | idea. |
| you are concerned about the way things are going. | | | | Other important steps include a careful evaluation of |
| This will allow for an open discussion. You may find | | | | how you treat your partner and how you are |
| that you are jumping to conclusions or on the other | | | | treated. If you are not giving or receiving the respect |
| hand you should be prepared to hear things that are | | | | you deserve then you need to address that. Your |
| less than pleasant. The good news is that in most | | | | partner is supposed to be your best friend and |
| cases your partner is feeling the same things you are. | | | | respect should be a part of every friendship. |
| He or she is feeling that the freshness of your | | | | These simple suggestions can go a long way toward |
| relationship needs to be revived and he/she would be | | | | getting back some of that freshness your relationship |
| happy to work on it. | | | | is missing. Use your imagination and be creative. Do |
| If this is the case then your work is going to be | | | | little things to surprise your partner that will be |
| much easier than if you have to go it alone. The two | | | | meaningful to him or her. You really can save your |
| of you can decide on things that will rejuvenate your | | | | relationship! |
| love and fun. I usually suggest that you begin by | | | | |